I love him. We were to have a future to build together. The familiar laughs, hugs, and happiness that I only had with him. I don’t let everyone see that side of me. The side that is romantic, soft, and caring. But, to him, I was all of that and more. In his eyes I was strong, funny, sexy, intelligent, giving, caring, loving, affectionate, dainty, and vulnerable. I am all those things. But, only he got to see it. Everyone else just gets a portion of it. They see me as strong, take no b.s., ass-kicker, ghetto jokester. Cry?! I don’t cry. I am too emotionless to wade down in the waters of the weak and weepy. I am the stone that doesn’t break. But, with each piercing truth of reality, my tears have broken my rock into small particles of sediment.
I know the devastation of a breakup can change you. You gave a piece of your heart and soul to them and you will never get it back. But, don’t focus on the could-have-beens, what-ifs, or if there was someone else. It will only hold you back from moving forward with the better life that awaits your discovery. You will heal. For each person, the journey to find yourself again is different.
For me, writing it down helps rid those weights that hold you down. One by one, your words will no longer repeat over and over again in your head. The same words that bring tears to your eyes. I love listening to empowering music. Sure, listening to slow jams to mirror your mood might be what you feel to listen to, but try listening to slow jams that will help you up, instead of keep you down.
- Beyonce’s Me, Myself, and I
- Ashanti’s Unfoolish
- Karyn White’s Superwoman
- Mary J. Blige’s Not Gonna Cry
- Mary J. Blige’s Enough Cryin’
- Mary J. Blige’s Take me as I am
- Mary J. Blige’s Be Happy
Go out with your friends. Make out with a random dude. Go shopping. Exercise. Looking and living fabulous will be the best revenge. Look at me now SUCKA!
Readers, please comment and share your tips on getting over a broken heart from a true love.
Some love quotes from here:
“Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met.”
“Once upon a time I was falling in love, but now I’m only falling apart.”
“I thought I loved him, but he had to break my heart for me to know what true love really is.”
“Time goes by, life goes on, and all I can think of is why you’re gone.”
“I should have been more careful. I was blinded by your halo, so I never noticed the horns.”
“I wish you could look at me and see the person you once loved instead of the person you have grown to hate.”
“I may regret the way we ended, but I will never regret what we had.”
“Everyone always says there are more fish in the sea… but sometimes you just really want bass.”
“From an angel’s wings, to a falling star, God made everything, but an unbreakable heart.”
“Maybe one day I’ll be able to tear away a part of me and let you go.”
“Love is the hardest drug to quit, but it is even harder when it is taken away.”
“If I could control my heart, I would stop it from falling in love with you.”
“If a tear fell from my eyes each time I thought of you, I would have a puddle of fallen wishes.”
“How do I make my heart start healing when it has never stopped beating for you?”
“If I could have one lifetime wish, one wish that would come true, I’d pray to God with all my heart, for yesterday…and you!”
Here are some pieces of advice from a heart that’s broken into pieces%u2026
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
“Living in the past causes you to miss out on the present. Life is too short to let it pass you by.”
“The greatest distance on earth is not north and south, it is when I am right in front of you and you do not know that I love you.”
“The worst thing is holding on to someone who doesn’t want to be held on to.”
“A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt yourself trying to fix it.”
“True love never dies as we see in our eyes, only when we let go that we can truly say goodbye.”
“Real loss only occurs when you lose something that you love more than yourself.”
“The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren’t paying attention”
some people said they put plaster on their heart so that it can try to heal…
I don’t think I have gotten over my broken heart from my first “love” to this day it still makes me sad…. but maybe it was the way it ended.. really no closure… but I can tell you one thing. That broken heart made me the strong, independent, no non sense kinda gal now….But I must say, the love i feel now for my husband is stronger than the one of my first love.
“The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren’t paying attention”….sums it all!
I talk about it to a very close friend. Listen to ‘I am survivor’ (Beyonce) and Gloria’s I will survive.Also like ‘bye bye bye’ from NSync.. stuff like that..
Yes, I cried.. a lot.. prayed a lot too.. I learnt to like myself and love myself.. enjoy my own company.. and be positive.. Get into shape..having a stranger at a gym complement you is an amazing feeling.. esp when the guy is very fit.. just have fun.. enjoy the weather.. read books.. do things that improve you.. and you will meet amazing people on the way.. try karate!! 🙂 Feels great 😀