No, I’m not talking ‘self love’ as Tweet sings it (listen to the song. good beat). I’m talking about loving yourself completely. O.k. Tweet’s saying that too. LOL I love how Wikipedia defines self-love. “Self-love is the strong sense of respect for and confidence in oneself. Self-love can be taught in childhood through honesty, acceptance and unconditional love.”
But, seriously, don’t let anyone’s actions and inaction, or words dictate what your self-worth is valued at. You work hard at being a good person. You turn the other cheek to all the adversaries you face. You make choices that although you don’t want to make them, you know it is for the best. I’m not here to say thank you for not stealing, sleeping with some loser guy who tells you he loves you or spends a little cash on you to make you think you are special, or staying in school and making your best effort. Those are expected. You ARE special. At first glance, particularly when you are young, you feel very ‘lucky’ to have someone buy you things. Nothing in life is free. Sadly, a large percent of young male hormones are motivated by something. Is all I’m saying….something.
I wish I could explain other people’s actions. Why they choose the things they do. How it affects people. Short term and long-term. But, I can’t. I can’t control what they do. But, I can focus on the positives in my life to know what they do will not bring me down or make me question my value. I have those who love me. Who support me. Who are proud of me. Those are the ones I will focus on. Those are the ones who will fill me heart. If I let the self-doubt creep in, I will shatter and cry. I just don’t want to be there. Ever again.
I won’t lie and say there are not moments of vulnerability. But, when those moments creep into you conscience, remember that you are never alone. You are a good person. You try your best. Be proud of yourself. No matter what mistakes (I prefer to call them a life lesson. No one is perfect. Mistakes have to happen to learn what works and what doesn’t), you are still a fantastic, hardworking, funny, loving, honest, special, person.